To teach my littles…

I was recently reading an article about what a mother would teach her daughter. So, it got me thinking… What are the top 50 things that I want to teach the children in my life?

  1. Laughter is the best medicine
  2. But that doesn’t mean tears don’t heal too
  3. Being right is good, being kind is necessary
  4. Find beauty in the everyday things
  5. Quirks are imperfections…
  6. …Imperfections are what make you who you are…
  7. …Who you are is beautiful!
  8. Honesty really is the best policy, and it means you have less lies to remember
  9. Compassion is never weakness, it is strength
  10. Chocolate will not fix all your problems, but it’s not your enemy
  11. Food is not just to keep you alive, it is okay to enjoy it!
  12. Don’t bite your nails, or pick your lip, or eat your hair. It’s just not going to help.
  13. Find how you love to exercise, and do it!
  14. Drink tea, lots of it!
  15. Have faith… don’t be afraid to believe.
  16. There are such thing as absolutes.
  17. Remember to apologize
  18. Admit when you are wrong
  19. Smile! Smile so much you confuse people.
  20. Love with all your heart
  21. Encourage others as much as you can
  22. Learn to cook
  23. Sewing does get easier with practice
  24. Know how to do your own laundry
  25. Volunteer for things
  26. Help others
  27. Save your money
  28. Buy quality over quantity
  29. Learn new words, as often as possible!
  30. Never be afraid to be intelligent
  31. Listen to others… REALLY listen.
  32. Read. Read as much as you can!
  33. Smell the flowers
  34. Stick you feet in the ocean when you have the chance
  35. Learn about the world
  36. Learn about the world by traveling it as much as you can
  37. Just because you were raised in one culture does not make that culture the best
  38. Beauty is not in the eye of the beholder, it is inside everywhere. Look for it.
  39. Take care of the things you cannot replace
  40. The most expensive outfit you will wear is your graduation cap and gown, and it’s worth it.
  41. Express yourself! Write, paint, draw, CREATE!
  42. Being yourself is the best choice
  43. Have integrity
  44. And loyalty
  45. Take pictures, but live the moment too.
  46. Fair does not mean just, and just is the better option
  47. Find what you love to do, find how to do it
  48. Read fairy tales. Never stop reading them…
  49. Take time to gaze at the stars
  50. Use your imagination

Courage

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I love this quote… And what is courage? I quoted this line to myself as I went into an interview last week. I quoted this to my little charge as she fell off a balance beam last September. I whispered it to the little one I watch who bumped into a wall in her endeavor to run on her tip-toes yesterday. So what is it that I am whispering to those children as they grow? What am I telling myself as I walk into brave new worlds? And so began my pondering of the meaning of courage. Here is my feeble gathering of it’s vast definition…

Courage is acting upon truth with conviction. It is standing when you believe you should stand, though your legs threaten to fail beneath you. It is loving when you know it is right, even when your mind is screaming anger and hate. Courage is the roar of a lion in the barren Sahara. Courage is a mother who allows her child to run, and encourages them to try again as they fall. Courage is the child who swims farther then their feet can touch the sand. Courage is as love, an action over a feeling. Courage is the noun created to give meaning to a verb that is too extraordinary for description.

So, what is it that I mean when I repeat, “Courage, dear heart.” I mean to embrace the belief and conviction inside of you. Feel that belief like the lion feels the beginning of a roar tickling their throat. Courage dear heart, you were made to roar.

The Sweet Unexpected…

What could I write about the last week? Bagels? Australia? Hockey? Driving? Interviews? My man coming for a visit? A diamond in the rough purchase during thrift shopping? I could type a hundred sentence that should never string together and it all happened in the last seven days!

One of my best friends found herself in a mid college crisis and needing a beach weekend. Though I warned her that my beach is 23 degrees out, she loved me enough to fly in to this second home anyway! So in she flew, my Sherlock, and off we went on adventures. Many naps, coffees, and bagels later we found ourselves in a thrift store shopping for an interview outfit! In the midst of the 80’s vests, oversized jeans, and insanely creepy dolls scattered about we found some amazingly beautiful thrifting finds. I looked like a professional nanny in the amazing blazer! Sherlock gives the most amazing fashion advice, it was amazing to have her to shop with.

It was even more amazing to have her with me as I zipped off the next day for an unexpected interview for a full time Nanny position. I have to be honest, I have never interviewed for any full time position! I was shaking in my high heels! I had prepped a resume, gone over my techniques for childcare in my head, and read up on a philosophy that I knew the mom adhered to. After waiting twenty minutes in the lounge of the apartment building the mom made it down to interview me. Surprisingly, my nerves disappeared when she sat down to talk to me. I knew what I was talking about, what I had to offer, and what I needed to know. I felt like it went as well as it could have. And even if I never hear back from her, I feel good about the experience!

Later that day I met my Amazing Aussie friend Tori in NYC! She just happened to be visiting and I have not seen her for SEVEN years! We hopped on the train and headed back to my home town to watch my younger brother play hockey. We laughed that Tori learned the National Anthem watching Seventh Heaven on TV. Her exposure to hockey had been the Winter Olympics, so this was a fun experience for her. She loved it so much she slept over to go to my brother’s morning game too! We talked about Pride and Prejudice, and laughed all the while that we live on the opposite sides of the globe and are still so similar.

After waving goodbye to her I went off to work and was surprised to have my knight in a sweatshirt and patchouli show up with Starbucks coffee half way through my shift! It was a beautiful surprise, and I loved seeing him earlier than expected. After work we headed off to my brothers hockey games and he held my hand the whole weekend as I screamed my voice away cheering for Bubba and his team. Luckily my family and Jake could understand my scratchy voice in the days to come.

Endless cups of tea and honey later I can  finally recognize my own voice. It’s been seven days of insanity and now my house is quiet. My family is away on a retreat, my doggy is asleep, and I am settling in to cheesy shows on TLC. What a wonderful rest after the beautiful unexpected moments of the last week…